Comments on: On queerness

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 02 May 2008 23:06:51 +0000

I think that’s spot on - and at the moment, yeah, that’s the problem - I’m only just getting used to having my visible queerness actually be attached to my sexuality and not my gender issues.

I’ve been reading too many of those damn sentences of late, so personally, I think I’d go for the mints….

By: queen emily

queen emily — Thu, 01 May 2008 12:20:57 +0000

O hai Sammeh.

Being straight is *also* a cliche for trans women, so it kinda plays out either way yeah. Reacting to cliches, meh.

It must be hard getting your head around it, when your visible queerness has always been indexed to gender rather than sexuality (mine too), but you’ll be able to feel the difference soon enough I reckon. I feel I should use a phrase like “gender and sexual queernesses are produced and constrained by intersecting yet differing regimes of power–institutional, discursive and personal.”

Or, I could not, and eat Junior Mints. Mmm chocolately Minty.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 08:24:33 +0000

Thanks, Sam.

By: Samanth0r

Samanth0r — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 14:42:51 +0000

Hey Dykes rock. really
You may get crap from time to time from older straight women, but most girls these days won’t care. It means yeah..if you have a partner it might be weird if you go on a double date or a thing where everyone has partners. But in the end, as we all know. Its nothing but good to embrace a part of yourself you know to be true. Even if it more difficult. I hate to play the cliche card but “nothing good is every easy”

L8r, Sammie

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 09:53:57 +0000

Thanks heaps, Alyx! That’s really kind of you.

By: Alyx

Alyx — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 04:20:55 +0000

I made a Livejournal feed from your RSS so myself and other LJ-dwelling creatures can read you more conveniently. Just FYI!

By: Emma G

Emma G — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 04:06:05 +0000

Being in a similar ongoing experience with my partner, I don’t have much to reassure you about. I’m visible as female sometimes only so the label lesbian can be applied. And that label opens you to a whole different set of repercussions. Which is on top of the repercussions that fundamentalist feminists and lesbians themselves can inpose for being born male bodied.

I can tell you it helps to have someone beside you. My partner has had to stand through the repercussions I reap. And she’s done it with commitment, integrety and strength. I’m not so certain I could have stood up at all alone.

It isn’t an easy choice to exchange comfort and safety for a risk with known potential for harm. I wish you well. BAnd I’m sorry, because I know how alone you’ll feel as well.

By: Robbie

Robbie — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 13:15:00 +0000

Good for you! Dykes are awesome! Never let anyone tell you otherwise.